She's awake 2 minutes and has already screamed at me twice

Suzee,
Thank you so much. I really appreciate your kind words. Truthfully, kind words are so sadly limited in my life. When I do hear them, I never believe them. I think that's why I reached out to a site like this. The random kindness from strangers... Hugs back at you. I also appreciated that you were so thoughtful as to make my hugs gentle. I try and fight the pain; as I am fairly young, it can be very depressing to have my daily everyday activities limited so much, and to be so very dependent on others. I was the one who always helped. I always gave what I could. Now I have nothing to offer. Thank you so much for reaching out to me....

@Finding Myself;
Thank you so much for your post. My daughter is unpredictable, though she does fare well so much better when her schedule is structured. However, she graduated school in June (when you have disabiities, you can go to school until you are 21. But, she is not ready for college even though she wants to go. Another issue is her profound poor hygiene and she has hoarding issues and rarely changes her clothes. Emotionally, she is in the age 9-12 range. So, when she sleeps, I would often wake her around 12 ish, as I think it is time to get up by then, but lately, she has been so miserable and nasty, that it is easier to let her sleep. However, I also need some help around the house, and being she doesn't do much, I feel she also needs to do some chores. So it is a balance between waking her up early enough to do chores; and late enough to minimize the screaming and nastiness. She is allergic to abilify and refuses to take Wellbutrin. She is supposed to be taking Adderall, Prozac, and Topamax, but refuses to take those currently as well. She refuses to go to therapy. Sigh, I will take all the peace and serenity wishes I can take. My road has been washed out and filled with dangerous curves, yet I can't seem to get off of it. Thanks for your support and kind words. These are so much appreciated. I wish you the best of luck with your step-daughter as well. At least she does get out of the house and will be trying to do something with the vocational school. I know my daughter wants to go to college, and she is smart enough, but I worry she won't be able to overcome her social dysfunction or other issues to manage. I hope I am wrong. Thanks again for your support. Good luck.

Thanks so much for your comments. I SO WHOLEHEARTEDLY agree with you. My heart weeps as I tell you there isn't anywhere for her to go. She absolutely needs a residential care facility. There aren't any; at least not in my state, and not for Asperger's. I'm told that if she had schizophrenia, or if she had down syndrome... or other diagnoses... but not for Asperger's. Asperger's children/adults simply have not been around that long. Asperger's really became so much more relevant in the 1990s/very late 80s. Therefore, they are just getting to the point, where now, more and more have graduated high-school, and/or college, so "NOW WHAT?". Society is simply unprepared. I have tried. I could spend hours telling you how we spent the last 10 years, where she has been in and out of the hospital, short and long term programs, and the minute she began to show improvement...send her home! The best place she was at was also the worst. It was a progressive place where she eventually ended up in a house with about 8 other kids, and she was doing so well... but she met the goals set, and she came home. She had been gone almost a year. Within three weeks of her being home, I BEGGED for them to take her back. That was 5 years ago, and there has been no relief since. We had found a place to put her last year. We were just about to sign the papers. But; it was a long term care facility. She would be the youngest there, and the next youngest was about 55. It was for the elderly who went there... TO die... I couldn't do it. She was supposed to start her life; start college or a job, or something... I couldn't send her to a facility that would offer her nothing... yes they would make sure she was safe, get her meds, and offer things like Bingo and crafts with other elderly men and women. But I couldn't do it.
Here's something else drastic I did. I offered to divorce my husband, and let him take our six year old away. Not that I don't love them... It was because I do... but I was afraid that she was doing too much damage to our marriage, and worse yet, to our little son. He is showing signs of the emotional abuse. He still wets his bed at night (wears pull ups), and he is very tempermental like never before. I know he needs therapy too. I cannot tell you how stressful nearly every single moment is. I simply no longer know how to handle it. That's why we evicted her.... but the case worker has not stated at all any idea where she thinks she might be going. And we are about 17 days away... Please pray for us. Thank you. I wish you the best too, and I appreciate your kind words. I wish there was a residential treatment facility. I would sell my soul to send her there. I would live in a shelter to get her the help she needs.

@TennisPlayer,
Thanks so much for your encouragement. I truly do appreciate it. I agree that one would think there is help somewhere out there. I have looked at some places online. I have heard that Delaware is very good in providing help as well as Florida. My grandmother had a friend who lived in a residential facility a few years back. Unforutnately, my grandmother died, and so did her friend, so there is no way for us to know for sure. We tried contacting the company who we "thought it was" to know avail. I have left my full-time job to attend to this situation, and can barely manage an online part time job. I am physically disabled as well, but my level of concentration is shot. I appreciate your suggestions, and believe me, I won't give up. I can't give up on my child. There has to be something out there. But at the same time, I can't have her here all the time acting out on us either.. Thanks again. Your kind and compassionate words mean so much...